Episode 50: Let Them vs Let it Be Me with Kathy Washburn
If you’re ready to break free from burnout, people-pleasing, and the silent erosion of self-worth, this empowering episode delivers a bold new mantra for living authentically after 50. In this milestone solo episode, host and cancer survivor Kathy Washburn takes on the trending self-help advice “let them” and explains why it can be toxic for those who struggle with conflict avoidance, emotional suppression, and putting others first.
Discover Kathy’s transformative alternative, “let it be me,” a compassionate approach to reclaiming your needs, honoring your desires, and building true inner resilience. She shares her own deeply personal journey of self-abandonment and healing, unpacks the science behind suppressed emotions and disease, and guides you through practical steps for setting micro-boundaries, expressing your true feelings, and creating safety for growth.
Whether you’ve wrestled with resentment, struggle to put your needs first, or you’re seeking a fresh path to self-investment, this episode is packed with actionable strategies, validating research, and heartfelt encouragement. Tune in for a candid, uplifting conversation that will inspire you to live from the inside out and become the best version of yourself.
In this episode, Kathy discusses:
The dangers of toxic passivity
Overcoming people pleasing behaviors
Chronic self abandonment and health
Building authentic self expression
Micro boundaries for personal growth
Timestamps:
00:00 "Let Them" and Self-Transformation
05:42 "Self-Prioritization Over People-Pleasing"
07:44 "Rediscovering Desire After Divorce"
11:42 Invisible Bitterness and Emotional Strain
15:08 "Resisting Social Pressure Through Self-Alignment"
17:17 "Emotional Suppression and Health Risks"
20:52 "Embrace 'Let It Be Me'"
24:47 "Safe Space for Open Expression"
27:11 "Self-Care: Prioritize Yourself First"
30:45 Self-Care Reflection and Gratitude
Connect with Kathy Washburn
To learn more about Kathy and her coaching services, head over to https://kathywashburn.net/
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