Episode 70: Be Kind, Not Nice: The Type C Guide to Self-Advocacy with Kathy Washburn
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In this solo episode, Kathy breaks down the hidden cost of “nice” for high achieving women, especially those with Type C patterns. She unpacks why niceness can be a performance that keeps the peace while quietly disconnecting you from your own needs, and how kindness is different because it includes you. You’ll hear a powerful story that clarifies the difference between surface warmth and real care, the science of what chronic emotional suppression does to the body, and a simple practice to help you pivot from freeze to truth in real time.
In this episode, Kathy discusses:
People pleasing and Type C behavior patterns
Self advocacy skills for high achieving women
How to say no without guilt
Nervous system freeze response and conflict avoidance
Emotional suppression and chronic stress
Boundaries as self respect and relationship care
Timestamps:
00:00:00 Nice versus kind
00:04:00 Episode theme be kind not nice
00:08:00 Why nice costs you
00:10:00 Minnesota Nice lesson
00:13:00 The body keeps score
00:16:00 From freeze to truth
00:19:00 Boundaries as kindness
00:22:00 20 seconds of courage
00:25:00 Wrap up and next steps
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