Episode 62: Changing Perspective in Dark Times with Andra Davidson
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When life tilts and the room goes dark, perspective is the flashlight. In this deeply practical conversation, divorce coach and mediator Andra Davidson shares how to steady yourself in hard seasons, make clear choices when emotions run hot, and rebuild with intention for yourself and your kids. You will learn simple tools to regain agency, write a mission statement you can actually use, and design a support system that holds when things get loud.
In this episode, Kathy and Andra discuss:
Emotional regulation during high conflict transitions and why it shapes outcomes
Mission statements rooted in personal values to guide decisions under stress
Practical co-parenting goals and communication that lowers reactivity
Therapy versus coaching, how in the moment guidance changes results
Designing support systems, intentional asks, and social boundary scripts
Timestamps:
00:02:49 Meet Andra Davidson, why this talk is bigger than divorce
00:03:48 Young bride to breaking point, the long arc to a necessary ending
00:05:19 Choosing acceptance and co-parenting on purpose
00:07:19 From heartbreak to divorce coach and mediator, Better Than Before Divorce
00:10:00 Decision making at emotional low points, why regulation matters
00:12:22 Regaining agency, goals you can reach now and later, mission statement guide
00:18:35 Build your team, therapy versus coaching, in the trenches support
00:27:51 Self love first, pause before you pair, grow the person who chooses
00:33:16 One hundred attributes, best self scavenger hunt, design your life
00:47:16 Build a support system with intention, asks that match your goals
00:50:48 Prep for hard rooms, tapping, power statements, your Ted Lasso power move
00:55:38 The pill question, perspective as a superpower
00:56:41 Closing encouragement and next steps
If Andra was a pill, what effect would she have on people?
I honor where people are and help them see perspective so that they can find strength and confidence in themselves.
About Andra Davidson
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Andra Davidson is a collaboratively trained Certified Divorce Coach and mediator who created her Better Than Divorce™️ Program to provide emotional support to men and women navigating the challenges of divorce.
She believes everyone can come through divorce better than they were before, and actively pursues steps to help each client minimize conflict, communicate effectively, and prioritize healthy coparenting in the way that works best for them.
Andra’s clients benefit from her 25+ years of experience in crisis communications, branding, and marketing, as well as her calm strength and commitment to tangible results. Throughout her career she has worked to help executives, teams and individuals communicate succinctly, with clarity, intention, and impact, and she loves using these skills to provide support and confidence to women and men tangled in the web of divorce.
Her favorite past time is enjoying her blended family: her amazing 26-year-old twins, two incredible step-kids, and two adorable dogs.
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